I didn’t want to forgive

Please read “My friend was acting distant” to get the beginning of the story.
I honestly thought I had no ill feelings towards XZ but after we spoke, I realized that I had been harbouring some feelings of resentment towards her. I didn’t want to forgive XZ for suddenly shutting me out. I felt hurt. I decided that I would avoid any activities that would make us cross paths but I knew it was wrong to think this way. In recent times, I have been praying for God to teach me how to love. How to die to pride and selfishness.

So, I prayed about my feelings and God opened my eyes to see that I needed to let it go because it was eating me up. Not forgiving prevents God from forgiving me. After all, the Lord’s prayer says, “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us”.

Besides, I had some blame in the matter but even if I didn’t, I was ready to just let it go.

I went back to talk to her about my thoughts and to apologize for not being there for her.

To cut a long story short, I let go of the hurt. As soon as I decided to do this, forgiveness flooded my heart and all those ill feelings are gone. God healed me of the hurt and gave me grace to forgive. 

In the beginning of our newly found friendship,  I was a bit unsure of where it was heading but I am so glad to say that we are back to being best of friends. God truly heals relationships. My heart is at rest.

Are you harbouring resentment towards someone? Are you hurt? Is your heart broken? Ask God for grace to forgive.
Next week Thursday, I’ll be talking about what to do if a friend suddenly starts acting distant.

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Foam·skee is a a lover of Jesus Christ, worship singer, wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend, entrepreneur and medical doctor. A proud Nigerian in her mid-thirties currently living in Alberta, Canada.

She loves people, everything haircare, skincare and makeup. She has been on a never-ending venture to lose 10 kg.


  1. Nice read. Please keep it coming. I miss your videos though.

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